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August 2, 2010 / dfrelix

Dealing with Offenses

Are You a Peacemaker?

 When someone offends us, sometimes it’s easy to feel justified in taking our own revenge by brushing them off with the cold shoulder, or giving them a taste of their own medicine. Some would say there is absolutely nothing wrong with that type of response–especially if it wasn’t your fault to begin with, but God desires that His children walk by a different standard.  When someone offends us He expects us to respond in love by forgiving them. Now you might say, “but you have no idea how bad they hurt me!” While that statement might be true, it is important to note that forgiveness is not about ignoring the fact that you’ve been hurt or scarred by an offense. Quite the contrary, if we are to truly forgive it is important that these feelings be recognized, but we can’t stop there. Despite the severity of the offense, we must make strides to walk the path of peacemaker by forgiving. Besides, when we harbor feelings of bitterness and unforgiveness in our hearts, it does more damage than you could ever know. For starters, it hinders our prayers from being answered. Secondly, it gives the enemy of our soul an open door to our hearts to take residence. Once he takes residence, he has the opportunity to rob us of our joy, wreak havoc in our physical bodies, and these are just two among a host of other things. You must ask yourself if harboring bitterness and unforgiveness towards a person is really worth the damage it does to you.

No one ever said living the life of a peacemaker would be easy, but Jesus can and will give you the grace to do so if you ask. Sometimes it takes more courage to behave this way than it does to act on our inclinations to take revenge. Do you have what it takes?

Moment of Reflection:

Are you struggling with an offense(s)? Do you have the opportunity to act as a peacemaker but find it difficult? If so, list the situation(s).

Take Action:

  1. If you are ready to take steps towards forgiving the offenses listed above, for each item listed, write out one or two steps you will take towards being a peacemaker toward the individual or individuals who hurt you.
  2. If you are the offender and are ready to reconcile, write out a plan of action as to how you will do this.
  3. If you are not yet ready to forgive, I invite you ask God to help you to want to want to act as peacemaker toward those who have offended you.

Copyright 2010 Dana Frelix

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  1. Felisha / Sep 28 2010 11:20 pm

    I’ve realized that hurting people, hurt people! I am to pray for those who hurt me because deep down I know that they themselves could be hurting.

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